Pre-Wedding blues
Wasn't expected to be trying gowns when we went down to the BS on tuesday. I thought we were there for some kind of consultation. Both of us went there right after work with empty stomachs. Bad mistake. Went into gown fitting for 3 hours straight.
It didn't start off well. She had to call and yell at me as usual. She does seem to find joy in spoiling people's day. Yelled at me for saying I'm kaypo, told them that water supply cut-off did not include our unit.
I was really puzzled by that. Because firstly, when we received that letter via TC, I told them that water supply would be cut off on Tuesday. Then over the weekend, she said I never read the letter correctly, there was no mention of our unit in the letter. So I said fine, since it doesn't affect me at all. I would be out of the house by the stipulated time anyway. Then she called me and scolded for telling them about the exclusion. I was like ? ? Then she said because of that, Emilyn didn't turn off the tap and flooded the whole house. I was like ? ? The person who didn't turn off the tap wasn't even me, so why yell at me? And I asked her what was the connection between water supply cut-off and tap not turned off. And as usual, she came up with her illogical reasoning. Because I told my sister we would not be affected by the water cut-off, so she did not bother to turn off the tap. That's why it flooded...
And as usual, she hung up on you. Wonder why I didn't pick up this habit. Hm, because it's rude and offensive, that's why. Since I don't like people doing that on me, I won't do it unto others as well.
Although the fitting went on smoothly, (so embarrassing that I was crying), we tried about 5 white gowns and 7 night gowns. Nice of Jeanie to let us take the photos home for reference. We did made our selection but looks like we might have to go for a re-fitting.
As usual, that woman at home has things to say. She says she refuse to attend the wedding if I wear such things. And she complains that their gowns are ugly.
What do you do with this kind of mother? Actually, I don't really care if she turns up or not. I don't even care if I have a family or not. Like her, so carefree, with no parents to bother, no family ties and not even a husband to control her. I know I'm being bad yesterday when I told Alan she doesn't have a husband to control her. But I really think it is true. She is too used to being alone, and everybody giving in to her. What she wants she gets, she is like an old spoiled and pampered child. Now even if she gets a man, the man would leave her. Nobody can tolerate her at all!
Living with such a person is a nightmare, like a bomb waiting to go off anytime. She can be very sweet at times, then 360deg change in a split second. She lives like a queen and we her servants.
You know, sometimes I'm really so tired of it that I want to just jump off the building. I think she's got some kind of psychological problem. If not, it's me. Sometimes when I reflect on my own character, I must keep reminding myself not to become like that. I think and think, why God put me with her. So that I can learn not to be like her?
But it's a scary thing, because almost all of the kids grew up and end up like their parents. How can I break out of this cycle?
I'm 27 almost finishing my 20s. Never had nice clothes, always she has some comments. Never went for parties, because she didn't allow and now nobody invites me. My friends are all gone. I can't get them back already because nobody replies anymore. She spoils everything.
Say wedding is 2-person thing, now who is putting her foot into everything? Even his parents are keeping quiet. So, what is her problem? She even dictates my invite list.
So, now, we got to re-choose the gowns again.
Probably end up with some ba-zhang gown, so conservative and boring, but she views it as "elegant"... my ass...
I really hope I don't end up black face on my wedding...
It didn't start off well. She had to call and yell at me as usual. She does seem to find joy in spoiling people's day. Yelled at me for saying I'm kaypo, told them that water supply cut-off did not include our unit.
I was really puzzled by that. Because firstly, when we received that letter via TC, I told them that water supply would be cut off on Tuesday. Then over the weekend, she said I never read the letter correctly, there was no mention of our unit in the letter. So I said fine, since it doesn't affect me at all. I would be out of the house by the stipulated time anyway. Then she called me and scolded for telling them about the exclusion. I was like ? ? Then she said because of that, Emilyn didn't turn off the tap and flooded the whole house. I was like ? ? The person who didn't turn off the tap wasn't even me, so why yell at me? And I asked her what was the connection between water supply cut-off and tap not turned off. And as usual, she came up with her illogical reasoning. Because I told my sister we would not be affected by the water cut-off, so she did not bother to turn off the tap. That's why it flooded...
And as usual, she hung up on you. Wonder why I didn't pick up this habit. Hm, because it's rude and offensive, that's why. Since I don't like people doing that on me, I won't do it unto others as well.
Although the fitting went on smoothly, (so embarrassing that I was crying), we tried about 5 white gowns and 7 night gowns. Nice of Jeanie to let us take the photos home for reference. We did made our selection but looks like we might have to go for a re-fitting.
As usual, that woman at home has things to say. She says she refuse to attend the wedding if I wear such things. And she complains that their gowns are ugly.
What do you do with this kind of mother? Actually, I don't really care if she turns up or not. I don't even care if I have a family or not. Like her, so carefree, with no parents to bother, no family ties and not even a husband to control her. I know I'm being bad yesterday when I told Alan she doesn't have a husband to control her. But I really think it is true. She is too used to being alone, and everybody giving in to her. What she wants she gets, she is like an old spoiled and pampered child. Now even if she gets a man, the man would leave her. Nobody can tolerate her at all!
Living with such a person is a nightmare, like a bomb waiting to go off anytime. She can be very sweet at times, then 360deg change in a split second. She lives like a queen and we her servants.
You know, sometimes I'm really so tired of it that I want to just jump off the building. I think she's got some kind of psychological problem. If not, it's me. Sometimes when I reflect on my own character, I must keep reminding myself not to become like that. I think and think, why God put me with her. So that I can learn not to be like her?
But it's a scary thing, because almost all of the kids grew up and end up like their parents. How can I break out of this cycle?
I'm 27 almost finishing my 20s. Never had nice clothes, always she has some comments. Never went for parties, because she didn't allow and now nobody invites me. My friends are all gone. I can't get them back already because nobody replies anymore. She spoils everything.
Say wedding is 2-person thing, now who is putting her foot into everything? Even his parents are keeping quiet. So, what is her problem? She even dictates my invite list.
So, now, we got to re-choose the gowns again.
Probably end up with some ba-zhang gown, so conservative and boring, but she views it as "elegant"... my ass...
I really hope I don't end up black face on my wedding...
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